In case you do not know what that is, let me fill you in. The Enneagram test is designed to reveal that all people belong to one of nine major personality types. Its purpose is not to put you into a box, but to help you identify both the strengths and the weaknesses of your defined personality. This test gives you guidance on how you may develop the traits of your personality beyond what your normal understanding will allow. Through learning that each personality archetype has strengths and blind spots, that are often amplified in professional settings we can evaluate, learn, and grow. What a mouthful!
You must understand I absolutely despise labels and for the longest time I thought labels were all this test was about. Another label we put on each other to drive ourselves into a category that keeps us is in a box! But I took it anyway.
Listen! The enneagram test helped me more than I ever thought it could of. It helped me better understand myself and to some extent the people around me. When I took the test, I learned that I am an enneagram 3 and at first, I denied the results, I hated the results. Status-conscious, driven, overly concerned with my image, is that who I am? However, after some reflection and self-dialogue, I decided I am totally okay with it.
Enneagram 3’s (healthy) embody the best in a culture, and others are able to see their hopes and dreams mirrored in them. Threes are often successful and well-liked because, of all the types, they most believe in themselves and in developing their talents and capacities.
Unhealthy 3’s tend to do whatever it takes to win. They can be deceptive and exploit others, stepping on others to stay on top and often destroying those who stand in the way. They are competitive but mostly with themselves.
For example, mothers who have the Enneagram Type 3 personality will be the ones who want to get back into shape immediately after delivery. They have goals, and they are determined to attain them. Moms that have the Enneagram Type 3 personality may often appear to have too much on their plates. However, even if that is the case, they manage to stay organized and get it all done. They love to delegate. It is important for threes like me to step back and reflect on who their cause is actually serving, especially as their children become more aware of our unique desires and goals.
Moms already struggle with guilt and as an enneagram 3, the guilt can get unbearable. We tend to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves and on our children. We want to put our kids in all the sports, doing things that push them towards a worldly view of success. Although done with good intention we can cause unnecessary stress and lead our family in the wrong direction if we are not careful.
Taking this test helped me identify, accept, and acknowledge a lot about myself. The test helped me own, love, and see the beauty in how God made me. When God formed us in our mother’s womb, He already had an idea of what kind of person He wanted us to be. He does not just tell us on paper who we are. We must walk with Him and discover who He called us to be through the gospel, and through our faith as he guides us in life. Jesus created our personality, and it is our reasonability to grow in who He created us to be. He walks with us, not for us.
After looking back, I realize that getting type 3 as result may not be my preferred outcome (especially if I allowed it to drive me in an unhealthy way) but I decided to focus on the strengths and be wary of the blind spots while trusting Jesus to help me overcome them. Thank God I have Jesus in my life! As an enneagram 3 who is also a daughter in Christ, the world better watches out because it cannot stop me. I am an achiever!
Last year I would have told you not to take the enneagram test but today, I am all for it. Go do it! Figure out your personality traits, then get with the Lord and let Him make you better. Let who you were truly meant to become out and discover yourself in a new way no matter what season you are in!